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“ToGetHer” (너의 연애) is South Korea’s first lesbian dating reality show, meant for women to find their next girlfriend, and comes from the same production house that brought viewers “His Man”. And hold your breath, because despite being reality TV, this series has peak K-drama vibes, with slow-burn romances, confusion, heartburn, and miscommunication always rife among the girls.
If the poster for “His Man” Season 3 looked like a K-pop band, the contestants of “ToGetHer” also seem like they’d be members of an all-girls K-pop band, all of them are pretty and have their own charms. Spanning 14 episodes, the show takes place on Jeju Island, a famous tourist spot with beautiful beaches and coastal trails.
The format is quite like “His Man”, where eight women live in a pretty vacation home for a week, go on dates, play games, get to know each other, and possibly find love in each other’s arms. But unlike the now-famous anonymous phone calls in the gay dating series, “ToGetHer” makes its contestants write anonymous ‘heartfelt notes’ to those they’re interested in.
Unfortunately, within the first few weeks of “ToGetHer” airing on Wavve, the show courted controversy over one of its contestants, Kim Ri Won, who faced allegations of faking her sexual identity to get on the show and was also accused of not disclosing the fact that she was an adult entertainer. In the subsequent episodes, she is heavily edited out of the series – just so you know why her screen time is so glaringly reduced. Which, of course, makes one wonder: what else was cut out? In fact, a lot more drama spilled online regarding other contestants too, but well, let’s focus on what goes on in the show.
After the first impressions, simply based on looks and personalities, HeeYoung and Park Da-gyo emerge as the most popular among the girls. While HeeYoung has a cool, aloof vibe, with tattoos on her, DaGyo is very girly, cute, and adorable. Kim Mi-rang is the only contestant sporting a boyish cut, which complements her face shape and makes her look gorgeously confident, although she turns out to be very shy. HanGyul is one of the youngest contestants in “ToGetHer“, the most introverted among everyone, and reserved. The other members are Kim JinAh, a famous YouTuber; Kim Seo-yeon, who surprises everybody on the show by revealing she has never had a girlfriend; and Son Min-woo, a TikToker, who joins the “ToGetHer” house last.
Sparks obviously fly between the contestants, although a lot of them turn out to be overthinkers, complicating their romances and serving plenty of drama in this dating reality show. MiRang is the only contestant who makes her crush on DaGyo apparent and keeps hitting on her wholeheartedly, quite like how Lee Jun Seong pursued SungHo in His Man Season 2. For those who don’t know, as of June 2025, the His Man contestants Jun Seong and SungHo are still dating and will complete two years together. So, people do find love on reality television.
The creators have tweaked the show’s format in many ways that foster misunderstandings between the contestants instead of helping them with their romance. For instance, halfway through “ToGetHer”, the women are asked to text who they want to go on a date with, but instead of actually going on dates, everyone is gathered for a group activity. This leads to some of them thinking that nobody made a successful match, which isn’t the case. Or at least, the final editing of the series gives the sense that this dating reality show was very tense for many participants, with an unexpected amount of tears throughout the episodes. Until the very last episode of ‘ToGetHer’, there’s suspense and tension over who is going to end up with who, with a few unexpected dates and chemistry among unlikely pairs.
Despite the format flaws and controversies surrounding some contestants, “ToGetHer” remains a groundbreaking series for South Korea. As the country’s first lesbian dating reality show, it offers rare representation and reminds viewers that same-sex relationships are just as layered, messy, and relatable as any heteronormative romance. That said, with 14 hour-long episodes, the show could’ve benefited from a larger pool of contestants, maybe 10 instead of 8, rather than dragging out slow conversations that often go nowhere. If Love Is Blind edited interactions the way this show does, each season would stretch to 50 episodes!
Anyway, “ToGetHer” embraces all the overthinking, jealousy, heartbreak, and confusion that come with modern dating – and shows exactly why so many adults today end up stuck in “situationships.” For viewers who enjoy messy emotions, slow-burn flirtations, and a dash of chaos, “ToGetHer” serves it all.
For viewers who love some drama and heartbreak, “ToGetHer” might be an entertaining dating reality show. I will definitely be tuning into a season 2, and hopefully there will be more contestants!
Watch the show on Wavve.
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